How to Get Over Someone You Love
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Paris, photo by innusa"Take the first step in faith. You don't have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step."
~ Dr Martin Luther King Jr
Are you aware that there are stages of grief when mourning someone who has died? There are also steps that must be taken when getting over a break up. It is actually harder to recover from a divorce or break up compared to getting over someone who has passed away. This is because there is normally societal support when someone dies but you are supposed to go through the process of getting over a break up on your own instead.
If you really want to know how to get over someone you love, you must understand that the process is not that easy. However, if you have the faith to take the first step, you will probably be on your way to free yourself from all the troubles that you are facing right now.
There are actually steps that you need to follow in order to get over someone you love. Please take note that the process during this period of get over time may be hard to bear but once you managed to get through it, you will be able to live a normal life once again.
Crucial Step 1: Pour Out Your Heart on a Letter
What you need to do is sit down and write a long letter to your ex. Pour out everything that is stored in your heart with the experiences you had shared together. Let your ex know why you loved him or her and even let them know how you feel about them now in the letter. Do call the names you used to call your ex and it is fine to write it in any matter that you want it to be as no one is ever going to see it. What you going to do next is to burn that letter, this method helps you release all the emotions that you have stored up so far while the burning ritual defines the end of the relationship. This will greatly help you on the road to emotional recovery.
Crucial Step 2: Arrange to Exchange Stuff
No matter how long is your relationship, you probably have some stuff of your ex at your place and so are your things at your ex's place. Both of you probably want your own stuff back so arrange a date to meet to return each other's stuff.
Crucial Step 3: Removed anything that is Left Behind by Your Ex
Any other stuff that is given to you by your ex as a gift, please removed it away by either giving it away or if the item is something expensive, go ahead and pawn it.
Do not leave anything behind as it will remind you of them. Make sure you get rid of any photos you have with your ex as you need to totally forget about your past relationship in order to get over the break up.
Crucial Step 4: Settle any Financial Affairs with Your Ex
You need to straighten out the financial matters such as any money owed or any tangible items you own together (money in joint bank account) with your ex. This is an extremely important step towards the closing ceremony of relationship.
Crucial Step 5: Cut any Contact with Your Ex for at Least 30 Days
Set a mutual agreement with your ex that within the period of 30 days, both of you are not supposed to contact each other no matter is call, text messages, email or meet each other. Make sure that both of you agree to avoid the favourite hangouts where you are likely to run into each other during this 30 days. You will really need the time & the space to slowly forget about your ex in order to live your life once again during this period.
Parting Words
If you are still facing troubles after performing the above steps, it might be necessary to seek counseling. Explain to the counselor that you have just been through a painful break up and ask the counselor how to get over someone you love. Normally, they can offer helpful advice and they will give you specific instructions about how to get over someone you love. A counselor will definitely be able to offer a better advice compared to your friends or family. Your friends and family members will normally advice you to get over things and move on to find another person instead. However, this may not be a wise advice as it is hard to actually forget the memories you have with your ex. With a counselor, you can safely tell those things about the relationship you probably do not want friends or family to even know.
Cheers
Johnny
**P.S**Are you trying to save your relationship and need immediate break up help? We recommend the best relationship books that will help you get through the break up period and get back your lost love.
If you really want to know how to get over someone you love, you must understand that the process is not that easy. However, if you have the faith to take the first step, you will probably be on your way to free yourself from all the troubles that you are facing right now.
There are actually steps that you need to follow in order to get over someone you love. Please take note that the process during this period of get over time may be hard to bear but once you managed to get through it, you will be able to live a normal life once again.
Crucial Step 1: Pour Out Your Heart on a Letter
What you need to do is sit down and write a long letter to your ex. Pour out everything that is stored in your heart with the experiences you had shared together. Let your ex know why you loved him or her and even let them know how you feel about them now in the letter. Do call the names you used to call your ex and it is fine to write it in any matter that you want it to be as no one is ever going to see it. What you going to do next is to burn that letter, this method helps you release all the emotions that you have stored up so far while the burning ritual defines the end of the relationship. This will greatly help you on the road to emotional recovery.
Crucial Step 2: Arrange to Exchange Stuff
No matter how long is your relationship, you probably have some stuff of your ex at your place and so are your things at your ex's place. Both of you probably want your own stuff back so arrange a date to meet to return each other's stuff.
Crucial Step 3: Removed anything that is Left Behind by Your Ex
Any other stuff that is given to you by your ex as a gift, please removed it away by either giving it away or if the item is something expensive, go ahead and pawn it.
Do not leave anything behind as it will remind you of them. Make sure you get rid of any photos you have with your ex as you need to totally forget about your past relationship in order to get over the break up.
Crucial Step 4: Settle any Financial Affairs with Your Ex
You need to straighten out the financial matters such as any money owed or any tangible items you own together (money in joint bank account) with your ex. This is an extremely important step towards the closing ceremony of relationship.
Crucial Step 5: Cut any Contact with Your Ex for at Least 30 Days
Set a mutual agreement with your ex that within the period of 30 days, both of you are not supposed to contact each other no matter is call, text messages, email or meet each other. Make sure that both of you agree to avoid the favourite hangouts where you are likely to run into each other during this 30 days. You will really need the time & the space to slowly forget about your ex in order to live your life once again during this period.
Parting Words
If you are still facing troubles after performing the above steps, it might be necessary to seek counseling. Explain to the counselor that you have just been through a painful break up and ask the counselor how to get over someone you love. Normally, they can offer helpful advice and they will give you specific instructions about how to get over someone you love. A counselor will definitely be able to offer a better advice compared to your friends or family. Your friends and family members will normally advice you to get over things and move on to find another person instead. However, this may not be a wise advice as it is hard to actually forget the memories you have with your ex. With a counselor, you can safely tell those things about the relationship you probably do not want friends or family to even know.
Cheers
Johnny
**P.S**Are you trying to save your relationship and need immediate break up help? We recommend the best relationship books that will help you get through the break up period and get back your lost love.
