7 Crucial Steps in Saving a Relationship
Crucial Step 1: Is Your Relationship Worth Saving? Ask Yourself this Question!If you don't learn from your mistakes, there's no sense making them.
- Anonymous
Before you start to save your relationship, you have to decide whether this relationship is worth saving or not. In order to save a relationship, both parties have to ensure that they want to get back together and a commitment is a must to work things out together without any complains.
Crucial Step 2: Must Find Out the Real Problems in your Relationship
You must really find out the real problems in your relationship in order to save it. One of the major problems among most undesired relationship is that people believe the symptoms of the problem are the problem itself. People has been thinking that all men who are having an affairs are bad, they are thinking the man is at wrong. However, the affair is only a symptom of the real problem itself. Do people really find out what has caused the affair? Is it because of a lack of intimacy that lead to a straying spouse? In order to save your relationship, make sure you start to handle with the core issues rather than symptoms.
Crucial Step 3: Spend 20 Minutes Each Day to Talk to Each Other
If the main issue is insufficient communication, commit 20 minutes each day to talk to one another before going to bed. This will tend to help couples to understand one another better and at the same time relief some stress. If both of you are staying far apart, make a phone call to chat with your partner before going to bed.
Crucial Step 4: Share Your Thoughts with Your Partner
Make sure you identified the main problems behind the broken relationship and once this is done, you can begin to share your thoughts with your partner. This includes both telling your own feelings and listening to your partner's concerns.
Crucial Step 5: Hold Your Partner's Hand While Talking About Your Problems
Let your partner know that you want to reconnect even when you are feeling bad. When your partner talks about things that may hurt you, remind yourself that he or she is not doing it purposely to hurt you. However, he or she just want to improve the relationship with you.
Crucial Step 6: Create an Action Plan to Solve the Problems Together
After knowing the real problems in your relationship, what you need to do immediately is to create an action plan to solve them together with your partner. Then, take concrete steps on your action plan.
Plan a date night at least once a week if you do not spend time together like you used to be. Make sure the two of you take turns to come up with creative ways to spend an evening together on your favourite day of the week, e.g. Each Friday. This is important as both of you will feel that equal amount of effort is put in together to actually make things work.
Crucial Step 7: Saving a Relationship is a Ongoing Process
Finally, you should have realized that saving a relationship is an ongoing process. You are going to take two steps forward and to take one step back only. Remember to be quick at apologizing and slow to blaming. You will feel both laughter and tears while going forward and that is life. Feel it with the one you love and treasure it as memories. Never regret what you have done and move on together to build a better future.
Try to think about how the two of you get together in the first place and this may leads back to beautiful memories of the past and you will have more courage to save your relationship.
Cheers
Johnny
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